Sam you should see if there are any leagues like the winter one that I was in or find a way to get one set up at your house. It was a handicapped league, 90% of 220, and it's a trios league. The teams and points however are different. The bowling order is decided on by the averages of the members bowling on the team i.e. lowest leading off and highest being anchor. If one team mate surpasses the other in average then the order changes.
The points are done differently as well. There were a total of 25 availiable points a team could win. 2 pts a game x 3 games x 3 people= 18 points. Then there is a pt awarded for your team winning the total of the game, which is 3 points. Then there are 4 pooints awarded for winning the total pins for the night.
The cool thing about this league is that is makes you compete with your teammates, the individual you are bowling against to get your 2 points a game, and you have to do well enough so that your team can win totals for the night. I really liked it.
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